Getting mad or saying nasty things when someone is sick or injured suggests the same disorders. Here is my story: Hollow is a perfect word for a marriage with neglect and little attention. a pleasure". He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. I wasn't even allowed to adjust my own pillows. There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. When my wife is sick, I tend to wait on her. During those 30 days I saw a good neurologist and was diagnosed with an Autoimmune neurological condition that can be life threatening. Some people are very loving and caring, others are pretty avoidant. This is the response of a person who lives in the present. Why? He is withdrawing from you, and youre feeling alone. I know when I'm sick, I freak out about being a burden & not pulling my weight. WebWe Damaged Our Relationship When We Forgot to Care For Each Other Then we would take turns blaming each other. Make sure he understands how much you like the connectionbut also how hurtful it can be when it's inconsistent. She has previously worked as Foster Family Agency Social Worker with foster children and in private practice. They were on their lunch break at the time, and went back to work - taking the automatic transmission car and leaving me with the manual. Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. It wasnt until recently that I found my voice. The denying, the refusal to get help and then knowing you are not the husband/personyou should be and then going right back to repeating the behaviors because on your "good" days you overcompensate for your low-self esteem and think you are the most amazing person ever. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. Then, why the * are they looking for a life partner in the first place?. Of course, I got no help from him with ANYTHING for the 6 weeks my foot was in the cast. I am not an illness. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 11:42, "our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. (sorry, another vent) .. So,when it comes to love, what to do, and where to go from here. If you are in the full To be honest, if we were not married, I would not choose him as a close friend because he is judgmental, acts like a victim, is abrasive, discards people, is full of ideas and dreams that go unfulfilled and is very impulsive as well as talks incessantly about topics people can't grasp (i.e quantum mechanics- high IQ, low common sense). Dont gauge this for the rest of your marriage. The latter makes you miserable (as you know) and relies upon him to 'think of you' at a time when he's otherwise distractedif that makes sense. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. 9. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. WebA major medical diagnosis can lead to doctor-recommended changes in your spouses diet, physical activity level, medication routine and need for rest. And, to feel loved in return, you need to be sexual with each other. I asked him why he never, ever revealed that to me..no answer. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while she's going through the flu or whatever. It tends to be E>S in females, and S>E in males, and S>E in ADHD regardless of gender. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). It gets to you after a while I feel lonely most of the day I get really depressed he wants me to clean up all the time when he goes (figues) but I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety it's hard for me to get up to doing simple tasks it's even harder when I have to do it on my own. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." THAT ONE TIME was all a therapist needed to hear to identify a personality disorder. Obviously. There is something good though. (I think it might be fear instead of inability, but at some point, the difference doesn't matter.) I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. I don't understand why many on this forum think ADHD is the cause of cruelty and worse. Run!!! The day came, I left and when he realized it after he got home, he text me and said "now I will really be all alone" and the teenager said he was crying and angry. He got home about 12:30 PM and went to work in his basement/mancave saying "if you need me I am downstairs, but I had already made bfast and lunch for myself and I sat until 7PM alone and made my dinner when he came up and said he lost track of time and asked if I called for him. Duped again. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same I, ME, MINE!! Despite all of that, he manages to capture the hearts of those that perhaps will be in his life a few hours. You should probably be checked out by a doctor. It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. She says take medicine or go to doctor. 2 months ago I had a Hysterectomy. Thanks a lot!" He went and played soccer that night when I was feeling my worst. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. Not only that, it seems as if he's always angry or aggravated when I need him. You know where I keep my emergency information, when to call 911. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. Best Sex Positions to Improve Your Sex Life. Emotionless. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. Because in his mind, I'm supposed to be taking care of him.not the other way around. Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. I am very organized so I planned for thenext 20 days. Hewas an abusive, narcissistic Asshole. In preparation, he never did set up a way to communicate with her (In the entire last year), did not reach out to her before or after the surgery. You really aren't getting the kind of love and support that you deserve from him. Love, to me, is caring about the welfare of something and wanting to put in the effort and time and attention for it to grow and survive. Sign #10: Not protective over you at all. Perhaps he would consider reading the free treatment e-book (look in the treatment guide for it) and also consider adding some 'attend time' to his schedule. Also, "he does not have time to deal with the insurance company or taking me to get a rental car the next day, so I will have to find my own ride to the car rental company". Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. That's absurd. You might be thinking, wow, why be with someone like that? NOTHING HELPED. Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 14:07. But, He won't spend any TIME with me, or sit and talk to me, like when I've been sick or in the hospital. He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. Life goes on around us when we are sick. She even acts like I am somehow putting her out by not being 100%. The whole thing is just very, very HARD. And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. Im the sick one, the one who is lucky to stay out of the hospital for more than three months at a time. She will come in and ask me if I need/want anything and see how I am doing. Consequences. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. Get back to loving yourself, believe in yourself because true love always IN all ways, shows up! There absolutely is an empathy and emotional disconnect which fuels this, and without that empathy the rest of the ADHD partner's response is heavily coloured. Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? Someone who would listen to MY dreams, and want that for me, as much as I want his dreams and goals for him, and to help each other achieve those, if in our power. To us I should say. Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. I offered to set it up on his phone but of course he won't relinquish his phone, which is another story, and the primary basis of my divorce request. to stand on my own and realize that until he gets help, this will not change and so it was time to live and grow and be "the mistress of my domain and my life". All I can say is wow. My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. I am not my illness; I am a warrior. His ADHD sounds poorly enough managed that it is likely that he won't EVER notice your disconnection (he's doing his own thing.) Follow this journey on Living Without Limits. I was about to turn 40 and here I was watching a grown man turn red in the face, speak horribly to himself for a broken scraper. Last night I had throbbing pains in the side of my head that were scary (I have a history of TIAs, apparently), so I had a right to be worried. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). I feel like with every post, I am reading about myself. My husband would blame me for ruining his life. I've had to take a de-greaser and scrub them all down to get the old slimy grease off of all of them. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. Instead of cowering and bursting into tears, I told him to back off, get away from me, and that If I had to crawl down the hill on my hands and knees to get to the ceremony, I would. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Press J to jump to the feed. I am flaberggasted. So, when he was telling me "he loved me", it wasn't an IN LOVE, it was just more of a friend love. Otherwise I think you need to stop acting like a child when sick. If there IS, it's usually in a complaint or verbal assault on someone or something, that irritated him, again, "at the moment". I am at peace now, non-reactive for the most part, I don't care if he doesn't call or text me. (Although I didn't make him do the dishes). Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. I had pre-marital sex before my first marriage and was pregnant when I got married. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. It was my truck. Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. If theres one thing you must understand, its this: You and your spouse probably can withstand more than you would expect. You can find even more stories on our Home page. I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. etc. It appears you entered an invalid email. My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. That's his job. I agree 100%. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. The texting got out of hand and the rest is history. And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. That's my two bits and I'm sticking too it. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. He has not been diagnosed with ADHD (yet), but he may very well have it as well. Yeah, I remember when she was sick and I was doing everything for her as I just let her rest. Recallingthe time I told him I was really sick in the morning before swim workout and he told me I had to go anyway? This has been validating. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. So He even broke the kitchen sink to where it only puts out hot water. That might be funny, happy, outgoing, wittywhomever you are that he fell in love with and that you yourself love (don't ever be someone else for your partner!). We don't have kids yet. No words. Lol. (And he sees this as a good thing)half done, with walls half painted. Boy did we cry. A therapist can help you evaluate the factors that have led you to this step and then offer advice about how to best proceed. That is when a person is the All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. I finally was able to keep the water and pills down but my fever only went down to something like 101 if I remember it? This is a personality disorder. Just the feeling at the moment. He might show it in other ways. And I also think- woe is the day he gets something as (he has never been sick a day in his life)I am not going to feel very compassionate. This marriage has changed me, first for the worst and now finally for the better. Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. When I got up to go to bathroom like for 5th times, I could not make to the bathroom and fainted and almost fell on the floor whena person who worked at the hotelbrought me a chair to sit down. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. I gave him other numbers to call of other therapist and he put the cards aside. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. Being Married to Someone Who Doesn't Care. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. I take and I take, and then I take some more. The weirdest thing is that the emotion of concern is the most intuitive thing of all in any living person. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. To the average person we are a perfect couple, our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. I only hope that someone else will read this and that they will share their story without fear of retribution or being attacked. In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. My wife wants to be left alone, and I mean ALONE. The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." not good. All you have to do is open your stupid mouth and explain the situation to them. But, he can't get past the victim hood yet. I was being somewhat sarcastic in my response. The next morning I woke up with chills and a fever of over 100. I think the explanation for her behavior lies in a few traits from her background: Latina with history of macho men in her past. Many years ago I had appendicitis. Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". Mistake on my part expecting a bit too much help from my partner. But just like I learned when I lost my job two years ago, a job I thought defined me, one singular part of my life does not define me. I didn't nag on him, or hate him, or unkind. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. Run!!! You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. When you marry, the two She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. WebPsychology Today: Health, Help, Happiness + Find a Therapist Newly wed so some things are quite new. What symptoms first occurred in Anyway, I digress. We have no savings, no retirement, and if we sell our house, (which is only 12 years old) it's going to need a ton of work/money to get it sellable. I wanted to hope that with me gone, and only him in the house, he would get to live the way he "wanted". I feel like crap so I have no plans of running errands. I will always do my best but not at the price of my sanity.". He came home from work at 9pm and I said I was throwing up and had terrible stomach cramps etc. Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. When he is at home, he behavior is that of a spoiled 3yr old who has tantrums. People are either takers or givers. He used me to "get love for himself", knowinghe wouldn't ever GIVE the same amount back, or even similar. The reception was held at a house, in he back yard. Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. It sucks but thats what it is. Iv been with my partner only 2 years yet everytime hes sick he bails out to go with his mates or even when I'm not sick, that or either on his game all day. Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. It seems likely he would like the opportunity to feel affection from you, as wellso perhaps would be motivated. ADHD, doesn't give you the liberty of that most of the time. That's why the 'pursuit' or 'in your face' strategy that you are using fails. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to give me a kiss and I tell him that he shouldn't kiss me because I'm getting a scratchy throat and most likely a cold and his response isn't one of sympathy, instead it's "Greeeeeeat! Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Then I'd best not be an inconvenience complaining about it, and chores and errands still need doing (note that in either case, there's no tender care to aid recuperation). We already talked last night and we good now. But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). That is my H 100%! So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. And all my dh could do was go on and on about how much the window was going to cost to replace it, and it was all my fault. After 2 years of therapy for myself, I am in a better place. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. I've seen SO deeply moved by the plight of others. :) Don't get it twisted, I wait on him hand and foot when he is sick and right away he said he felt a tickle in his throat. Second, gently encourage him to connect. It wont solvefor the dishonesty (and just found a new credit card). Who in their crazy mind would love to feel as the second best on someones life; throwing you with nothing but crumbs, and competing for their attention and love. I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. ExpectingH to become someone he cannot/will not be is futile. All I have to say about that is..THAT..is some Fucked Up Shit.right there!! So, for me, this could be more mental illness that just hasn't been diagnosed yet, and he is too afraid to find out anything else other than the "acceptable" ADHD. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. That put yourself in these situations and then wonder why things happen to you. Become a Mighty contributorhere. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Being in a constantly defensive state (as are the chronic blamers of the world) means ADHD adults can become really good at detachingand awful at attaching. My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. Don't get me wrong. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. I am a partner though, specifically yours. And vice versa. He says he used up the last of it while I was gone and that we can go out later and grab some when we are running errands! Or begging him to drive you home. Kathy woke-up startled to hear her phone ring so at 5 am. Are you 5 years old? But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. I start my day with positive thoughts of not retaliating, not overthinking, and not trying to change what I can't control. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? However, I work andtake care of the house and the kids. I think that it's true. He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. Please ask around or ask someone in your family to get online and see what public options are available for you- to either improve your eye sight or get back to your home country. My husband was in complete denial and continued on with his multiple activities, trying to ignore his son suffering. I want to leave him but my family is against it. If the tables were turned, I know he'd be acting like he was at death's door if he simply had the sniffles. But I havent been acting like it. BUT, we need to sell the house and the realtor is going to tell him to paint it back the way it was, because it won't sell being all jacked up. He had the flu last year and I took care of him. There are times I still wonder how our husbands can continue to deny who they are, and why so MANY people, have difficulty with them. Ihave neglected you. Anyway..it was really serious and I can't ever remember being that sick before in my life and it was horrible right? Some men are selfish creatures. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. but I am trying to get past the resentment so now it simply feels like a friendship and some days like room mates but my goal is to remain pleasant and loving, as I would treat a friend. Your wife is negative because she doesn't know how to deal with her angry/upset/self-loathing emotions so she projects them onto 'faults' that you have. How can she stop? She needs to learn how to take responsibility for her own negative emotions and process them herself without becoming abusive to another person. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. This is the extent of OUR now/not now difference when it comes to love. (regardless of what his mother did to him when he was small) Somewhere insidehimself, he knew he was holding back, and still did it, to his own detriment and the detriment of our marriage and love. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? Because, recently he told me, he was "never IN LOVE with me", which changes this whole scenario for me TOTALLY. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally H's definition of love is thisafter I asked him "What does love mean to you?" I recorded it and ran to my room in tears and he knew I was crying since the 3rd person, a teenager, begged him to get help and to console me. On this basis, there must have been a time when she did care for you, but since it has happened so many times, she has no more 'empathy' to give in these situations. When my husband found out he was angry and said " I can't justify spending that kind of money. Which is what gets me to why I'm posting this response: "I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. My husband didn't help me with anything around the house. When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. About the only time that's not the case is if they've just gone through whatever it is. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. You carry on, steady through the storm. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. Gosh, feel better! And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. And for this, I am truly, deeply sorry. 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